Goals vs Systems

Forget About Setting Goals. Focus on This Instead.

We all have things that we want to achieve in our lives — getting into the better shape, building a successful business, raising a wonderful family, writing a best-selling book, winning a championship, and so on.

And for most of us, the path to those things starts by setting a specific and actionable goal. At least, this is how I approached my life until recently. I would set goals for classes I took, for weights that I wanted to lift in the gym, and for clients I wanted in my business.

What I’m starting to realize, however, is that when it comes to actually getting things done and making progress in the areas that are important to you, there is a much better way to do things.

It all comes down to the difference between goals and systems.<read more...>

By James Clear    |    Continuous Improvement, Goal Setting, Habits, Systems Thinking

"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."

"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."
--Eleanor Roosevelt

Как выйти из тупика. 16 слов для устранения внутреннего ступора

Бывало ли у вас такое, что результат, которого вы хотите достичь, вас мотивирует, все шаги распланированы, но что-то внутри останавливает от действий — и совершенно непонятно, что? Например, есть четкий план, как заработать денег, есть силы, и деньги действительно нужны, но вы никак не можете заставить себя начать…
Или так: какое-то дело вас увлекало, а потом вдруг начало угнетать. Например, прекрасный продавец вдруг разлюбил продажи, вдохновленного учителя стало раздражать ведение уроков, а хорошего студента — учёба…
Если вы хотите знать, почему это происходит, а главное, что с этим делать — то эта статья для вас.

http://interesno.co/myself/cad775ed69c7

Science says parents of successful kids have these 9 things in common

by DRAKE BAER AND RACHEL GILLETT

1. They teach their kids social skills
2. They have high expectations
3. The moms work
4. They have a higher socioeconomic status
5. They've attained higher educational levels.
6. They teach their kids math early on
7. They develop a relationship with their kids
8. They're less stressed.
9. They value effort over avoiding failure
Read more: http://www.businessinsider.com/set-your-kids-up-for-success-2015-8#ixzz3k2XElV6i

What’s Lost as Handwriting Fades

by Maria Konnikova 

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Children not only learn to read more quickly when they first learn to write by hand, but they also remain better able to generate ideas and retain information. In other words, it’s not just what we write that matters — but how.

“When we write, a unique neural circuit is automatically activated,” said Stanislas Dehaene, a psychologist at the Collège de France in Paris. “There is a core recognition of the gesture in the written word, a sort of recognition by mental simulation in your brain. ...  Read more....

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30 Seconds Habit

The 30 Second Habit That Can Have a Big Impact On Your Life

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If you only do one thing, do this

He was in his early teens, about to start senior school, when his grandfather took him aside and told him the following:

Immediately after every lecture, meeting, or any significant experience, take 30 seconds -- no more, no less -- to write down the most important points. If you always do just this, said his grandfather, and even if you only do this, with no other revision, you will be okay.

He did, and he was. In everything he has done since, with such accomplishment, and with enough room still to experience life so richly. He later inducted into the pact both his sons, who have excelled in their young careers.

I've been trying it out for a few months. Here's what I've found so far:

1. It's not note taking: Don't think, just because you write down everything in a meeting, that you're excused from the 30 second summation. Though brief, this exercise is entirely different from taking notes. It's an act of interpretation, prioritisation and decision-making.
2. It's hard work: Deciding what's most important is exhausting. It's amazing how easy it is to tell yourself you've captured everything that matters, to find excuses to avoid this brief mental sprint -- a kind of 100 metres for your brain.
3. Detail is a trap: But precisely because we so often, ostensibly, capture everything -- and thus avoid the hard work of deciding what something counts -- that everything is worth less. So much of excellence is, of course, the art of elimination. And the 30 second review stops you using quantity as an excuse.
4. You must act quickly: If you wait a few hours, you may recall the facts, but you lose the nuance. And this makes all the difference in deciding what matters. Whether it's the tone in someone's voice, or the way one seemingly simple suggestions sparks so many others, or the shadow of an idea in your mind triggered by a passing comment.
5. You learn to listen better, and ask better questions: Once you get into the habit of the 30 second review, it starts to change the way you pay attention, whether listening to a talk or participating in a discussion. It's like learning to detect a simple melody amidst a cacophony of sound. And as you listen with more focus, and ask better questions which prompt actionable answers, so your 30 second review becomes more useful.
6. You're able to help others more: Much of what makes the 30 second cut are observations about what matters to other people. Even if the purpose is to help better manage different interests in future conversations, it also helps you understand others needs, and so solve their problems. This does not surprise me: in months of interviewing people who make generous connections, I've been struck by how many have their own unconscious version of the 30 second review: focused on the question of how best they can help.
7. It gets easier and more valuable: Each time you practice, it gets a little easier, a little more helpful and little more fun. ...Read the article...

Creativity Article

Learning to Think Outside the Box

Creativity Becomes an Academic Discipline

It bothers Matther Lahue and it surely bothers you: enter a public restroom and the stall lock is broken. Fortunately, Mr. Lahue has a solution. It’s called the Bathroom Bodyguard. Standing before his Buffalo State College classmates and professor, Cyndi Burnett, Mr. Lahue displayed a device he concocted from a large washer, metal ring, wall hook, rubber bands and Lincoln Log. Slide the ring in the crack and twist. The door stays shut. Plus, the device fits in a jacket pocket. Read more ....

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"Atlantic" Dress

"Sassy Jazzy" Dress

 

"New York Safari Party" Dress

"Ballroom Beauty" Dress

Quote

"If you want something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done before" 

- Thomas Jefferson

So..... that's why I decided to learn about the weight loss program.....

Дочка

Моя дочка 

JD12252013

Просто понравилась эта праздничная картинка. 

Закат

12-24-2013 

Вот такой волшебный закат я увидела вечером, когда возвращались с Рождественской ярмарки

Classical Music

Playing classical music to your child can improve their listening skills later on in life 

by MailOnline/Science and Tech

• Playing classical music to young children boosts their concentration and self-discipline as well as their social skills
• The Institute of Education, University of London examined a scheme that introduces children to classical music in assemblies and classes
• Teachers said it increases pupils' listening power, musical knowledge, aspirations and in some cases improved their English

Susan Hallam, professor of education and music psychology at the IoE, evaluated a programme developed by Apollo Music Projects which introduces children aged seven to ten to classical music and its composers.

The scheme involves a whole school assembly followed by six lessons at class level, with children experiencing different instruments and musical concepts and a formal concert (Read More....)

Зима

Снег у нас большая редкость. А тут метель за метелью....

Через два дня опять метель с мокрым снегом

Пинки и мини пайс

 11-28-2013

Пинки пьют чай с мини пайс по новым рецептам